Raising a child with special needs can be a very lonely road to tread. Though there are many resources available to us to help us, we can feel lonely. I think the loneliness comes from being surrounded by hundreds of people who don’t understand what it’s like. Some try to show their support, some behave a little awkward around the topic. It is not uncommon to be given unsolicited advice to encourage us or to tell us what we should do. Some may even think that they know better than us. The truth is, no one knows our child better than we do.
My oldest daughter was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder almost two years ago. In my experience, it’s easy to get frustrated and overwhelmed when comparing her behaviour and milestones with other children. I can get fixated on faults and lacks. It is then that I remind myself that she’s perfect the way she is. She’s a fun-loving, sweet little girl. She makes us laugh when she’s in her silly moods. She doesn’t ask for much… just to be loved and accepted as she is. Sure, ASD has its own set of challenges, but remembering how special the child is has inspired much patience and appreciation for all the good in her.
Love your children for who they are, regardless of their challenges. Be a light a compassion for them!